{"id":28,"date":"2026-07-16T10:44:49","date_gmt":"2026-07-16T10:44:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/dev-dreamslms-wp.dreamsmarketplace.com\/kindergarten\/building-kindness-and-friendship-in-early-years\/"},"modified":"2026-07-22T04:43:42","modified_gmt":"2026-07-22T04:43:42","slug":"building-kindness-and-friendship-in-early-years","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dev-dreamslms-wp.dreamsmarketplace.com\/kindergarten\/building-kindness-and-friendship-in-early-years\/","title":{"rendered":"Building Kindness and Friendship in Early Years"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>How sharing, turn-taking and gentle guidance help children grow into caring friends.<\/p>\n<h5>Kindness is a skill, not a personality trait<\/h5>\n<p>It is easy to talk about children as though they are naturally kind or naturally not. In reality, kindness rests on skills that take years to develop \u2014 noticing how someone else feels, imagining a view that is not your own, and managing your own strong feelings long enough to act on it. Three-year-olds are still building all three.<\/p>\n<p>That is why &#8220;say sorry&#8221; so often falls flat. A child who does not yet understand what the other person is feeling is simply repeating a word. The understanding has to come first, and it comes through practice.<\/p>\n<h5>What actually helps<\/h5>\n<ul class=\"kg-post-list\">\n<li><i class=\"isax isax-tick-circle5\"><\/i> <strong>Name feelings out loud.<\/strong> &#8220;He is upset because he was still using that&#8221; gives a child the information they need to be kind next time.<\/li>\n<li><i class=\"isax isax-tick-circle5\"><\/i> <strong>Notice kindness specifically.<\/strong> &#8220;You waited for her to finish \u2014 that was thoughtful&#8221; teaches far more than a general &#8220;good boy&#8221;.<\/li>\n<li><i class=\"isax isax-tick-circle5\"><\/i> <strong>Model it visibly.<\/strong> Children copy how the adults around them speak to each other far more than they follow instructions.<\/li>\n<li><i class=\"isax isax-tick-circle5\"><\/i> <strong>Give repair a role.<\/strong> Fetching an ice pack or helping rebuild the tower is more meaningful than a forced apology.<\/li>\n<li><i class=\"isax isax-tick-circle5\"><\/i> <strong>Read stories about feelings.<\/strong> Books let children rehearse difficult emotions safely.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<blockquote class=\"blog-blockquote\">\n<p>Sharing is genuinely hard for a young child. Turn-taking with a clear end \u2014 &#8220;you will have it after Ana&#8221; \u2014 is fairer and far less distressing than insisting a toy be handed over at once.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<h5>Turn-taking and the toy that everybody wants<\/h5>\n<p>Expecting a two-year-old to share on demand asks for something they are not developmentally ready to give. What works better is a predictable system: the child using something keeps it until they are finished, and the next child is told clearly that their turn is coming. Sand timers help enormously, because the timer becomes the authority rather than the adult.<\/p>\n<h5>When friendships wobble<\/h5>\n<p>Early friendships are intense and changeable. Best friends on Monday may not want to sit together on Tuesday, and this is usually nothing to worry about. What matters is that children have several routes into play rather than depending on one relationship.<\/p>\n<ol class=\"kg-post-steps\">\n<li>Listen first, and resist the urge to solve it immediately.<\/li>\n<li>Help them find the words for what they wanted to happen.<\/li>\n<li>Rehearse a way in \u2014 &#8220;can I play too?&#8221; is a skill that improves with practice.<\/li>\n<li>Tell us. We can quietly seat children together, pair them on a task, or keep a closer eye at the moments that go wrong.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Our teachers weave this into every day at kindergarten. Book a visit to see it in action.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>How sharing, turn-taking and gentle guidance help children grow into caring friends.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":0,"featured_media":89,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[30],"tags":[41,40,39],"class_list":["post-28","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-parenting-tips","tag-friendship","tag-kindness","tag-social-skills"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/dev-dreamslms-wp.dreamsmarketplace.com\/kindergarten\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/28","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/dev-dreamslms-wp.dreamsmarketplace.com\/kindergarten\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/dev-dreamslms-wp.dreamsmarketplace.com\/kindergarten\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dev-dreamslms-wp.dreamsmarketplace.com\/kindergarten\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=28"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/dev-dreamslms-wp.dreamsmarketplace.com\/kindergarten\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/28\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":101,"href":"https:\/\/dev-dreamslms-wp.dreamsmarketplace.com\/kindergarten\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/28\/revisions\/101"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dev-dreamslms-wp.dreamsmarketplace.com\/kindergarten\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/89"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/dev-dreamslms-wp.dreamsmarketplace.com\/kindergarten\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=28"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dev-dreamslms-wp.dreamsmarketplace.com\/kindergarten\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=28"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dev-dreamslms-wp.dreamsmarketplace.com\/kindergarten\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=28"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}